Please also read the Q Is the Schema Circle Therapy and how is it different to Therapy?

The Schema Circle does not constitute psychological therapy.

The Schema Circle is for anyone who wants to stay committed and consistent with their self-development and schema-change journey.  

It’s for you whether you’re just starting out on your schema-change journey or if you’re well underway.

The material in The Schema Circle would also be an ideal therapeutic partner for many people undertaking their own individual schema therapy.

If you are a therapist or coach who uses Schema Therapy, the membership would be an excellent companion resource for your work with your own clients.  The content can be used to enrich your own personal and professional development. 

Undertake a comprehensive introduction to the schema therapy model. We’re talking about all the knowledge you need to understand how schemas are formed, triggered and maintained

Create your own unique schema roadmap detailing your schemas, how they’re triggered, how you feel when they are triggered, your family of origin patterns which formed them and how you cope when your schemas are triggered. This is the essential first step in using schema coaching to create the changes that are important to you.

Gain knowledge about the most common schemas. This is essential information for understanding them in yourself and how to spot them in other people around you.

Get a compassionate and pragmatic approach to your emotions which is essential for managing your schema triggers

Use the SchemaShift method on a daily basis. This is our unique way of helping you manage those intense moments when your schemas take over

The ability to link your current life problems to your schemas leading to more hope and more effective problem-solving

Develop a sense of clarity and confidence that comes from knowing the real reason you are stressed, anxious or depressed with a way to move forward and create changes in your life.

Develop a strong healthy adult mode and be proud of your new identity as a pattern-breaker.

As soon as you join the membership, you’ll get immediate access to the following:

Deep-Dive 1: Dealing with Difficult Parents

One of the most common difficulties that come up for our clients is the relationship with their parents. Whether we are 5, 15, or 50 the relationship with our parents continues to exert its influence throughout our lives, even if we don’t want it to. 

After this Deep-Dive you will be able to:

• Understand your difficult parent’s schema modes - this is a whole new way of understanding the parts of your parent you find so difficult and hurtful
• Understand how your schemas get triggered and how you can prepare yourself for interactions with more confidence and clarity
• Develop an intentional plan for coping with your difficult parent - a powerful way to protect yourself in their presence. You will learn to walk that fine line between managing the relationship with them and preserving your self-respect.

Deep-Dive 2: Boundaries: Healthier Boundaries through addressing your Schemas

What does the word boundaries mean to you? For lots of people they mean angst and confusion. Developing healthy boundaries is one of the toughest things for many of our clients. Common questions include: What is an appropriate boundary? What should I say? Why do I feel so guilty?!

In this Deep-Dive we help you create more clarity and confidence when it comes to your boundaries. 

We help you:

• Do a boundary audit - where are you at right now with your boundaries, what are the costs of your poor boundaries and what needs to change
• How your schemas get in the way of you having good boundaries
• Identify your Boundary Goldilocks Zone - how to have boundaries that are not too porous and not too rigid.
• Create your own step-by-step process to better boundaries using our Better Boundaries Tool

Deep-Dive 3: Triggers: Understanding and coping with schema activations

We all get triggered and emotionally activated in life, it’s totally normal. But when a schema is triggered, we can feel distressed, confused and out of control emotionally. In this deep-dive we break down all the steps of a schema trigger and ‘trigger chain’ so you can become more aware of the components involved in a schema trigger and how to respond differently. We’ll help you take the mystery out of your triggers and give you tools to better understand yourself and feel more grounded and in control. 

At the end of this deep-dive you will:

• Be more aware of your own personal schema triggers
• Understand the components of a trigger chain in the process of schema activation
• Understand your behavioural responses, how you normally respond to schema triggers and why this can make things worse
• Start the change process by learning how to respond differently and how to complete a schema flash card to keep you on track

Deep-Dive 4: Transforming Shame to Strength: A key factor in developing a strong Healthy Adult Mode 

Toxic Shame can be a hidden problem and gets in the way of healthy self-respect and confidence. We help you expose the shame that is holding you back. 

After watching this Deep-Dive you will be able to do the following:

• Assess the extent of toxic shame in your life
• Identify the difference between toxic shame and healthy shame - essential for moving from shame to strength
• Know how toxic shame has played a role in your own schemas developing
• Build your Healthy Adult mindset and learn how to “come good” - essential for letting go of toxic shame and leaning into healthy shame

Deep-Dive 5: Healing the Vulnerable Child: The Heart of Schema Therapy

In this deep-dive we look at one of the core elements of schema therapy - the Vulnerable Child Mode. Your Vulnerable Child (or inner wounded child), is the part of you who holds all the hurts and painful feelings from childhood. That is, the vulnerable part of you who’s in touch with your unmet needs. Knowing and re-parenting this part of you is an essential step in the schema change process and becoming a more psychologically whole and self-aware person. 

After doing this deep-dive you’ll be able to:

• Recognise your vulnerable child mode
• Have a deeper understanding of how and when this part of you is triggered
• Learn ways to access and communicate with your vulnerable child
• Understand why self-abandonment is so unhelpful
• Start to heal and re-parent your vulnerable child mode

Deep-Dive 6: Schemas and Trauma: Understanding trauma and the development of schemas

In this deep-dive we look at how trauma impacts the development of your schemas. Understanding why we have schemas isn’t the whole story but it’s important to acknowledge where they come from. 

We’ll show you:

• How your nervous system reacts to trauma and unmet needs in childhood so you can normalise your emotions and have self-compassion for yourself now
• Identify and recognise your emotional unmet needs - essential for accepting that trauma has happened to you
• How to do a reflection on your family of origin to acknowledge your actual experiences and understand the link between here and now - a coherent story is essential for healing.

Deep-Dive 7: Meeting and Transforming Your Inner Critic

We all have some form of Inner Critic giving us negative messages and making us believe unhelpful stories about ourselves. In this deep-dive we look at the inner critic in a whole new way. We’ll show you how to get in touch with your critic, understand when, how and why it developed and start to shift these inner messages. 

You’ll come away from the deep-dive with a clear understanding of:

• Exactly what the inner critic is
• Different types of inner critic
• Where your inner critic comes from and why it’s there in the first place
• How the critic shapes and perpetuates your schemas
• How to develop self-compassion as a powerful antidote to the inner critic
• How to use different self-compassion exercises to dilute and shift your inner critic

We select deep-dive topics based on our 20+ years of experience as schema therapists and the most common issues facing the many clients we have worked with over the years. Our deep dives are also carefully curated to give you the essential ingredients for growing a strong Healthy Adult Mode (i.e., your healthy, wise and compassionate part of self).

That’s up to you. 

This isn’t a course or workshop. There isn’t a curriculum. No “homework.” No schedule. 

You can listen/watch the material in the Know Your Schemas course, the Deep-Dives, participate in the monthly Q&A, do the exercises in the Mindset tool or connect in the private Facebook group as little or as often as you like. 

If you are super busy one week or one month that’s no problem. There is no “falling behind” in this membership.

One of the biggest predictors of change is the people you surround yourself with. We hope that by building this community you can surround yourself with like-minded people – who can normalise your struggles as well as inspire and encourage you to persist when things are hard.

Your initial subscription instalment will be processed the same day you join The Schema Circle. For monthly subscriptions, instalments will then be processed on the same day of every following month. For yearly subscriptions, instalments will be processed on the same day and month of every subsequent year.

The Schema Circle membership is NOT psychological therapy nor is it group therapy. Rather, think of The Schema Circle as a live self-help book. 

During the Q&A sessions, we will provide assistance with certain issues and applications of the content covered in the “Know Your Schemas” course but it is beyond the scope of the membership to provide in-depth and tailored recommendations to any individual group member. 

We recommend that members seek their own individual schema therapist to receive tailored help with schema healing and change. 

The Schema Circle should NOT be used as a substitute for personal mental health treatment, therapy or advice.  

If you have a mental health concern or suffering from a mental health condition, please seek professional advice which is tailored to your own needs. 

The Schema Skills coaching call is usually held live on the 2nd Friday of the month at 12pm AEST. 

The Schema In Focus session is usually held live on the 3rd Wednesday of the month on 4pm AEST. 

The general Q&A call is held on the last Monday of the month at 10am AEST.

If you can’t make it to these calls you can always watch them later as everything is recorded and uploaded into the portal for you to watch whenever you wish. 

Everything is in the membership portal. You just log in and can access the ‘Know Your Schema’ course material as it is gradually added to the membership, the Deep-Dive library and all of the Healthy Adult Mindset Tools, and all the monthly coaching call  recordings. You can access the membership portal from your computer, tablet or smartphone.

This is your space to learn and grow. You can work at your own pace, ask questions and you will be reminded of when new content is released. 

The content will be there waiting for you in the membership portal. 

You can jump in any time to listen, read, watch or practise whenever you want.

When you first join The Schema Circle you are joining for an initial 12-month commitment. 

This means that the monthly or yearly fees are non-refundable for the first 12 months (after the initial 14-day trial period has passed). 

However, once your initial 12 months are over you may choose to cancel your membership. 

You may also choose to continue to pay month-by-month or re-commit to another 12 months to take advantage of the discount (pay for 10 months upfront to get access to 12 months).

Yes. We want you to be happy with your purchase.  When you join The Schema Circle we offer you a 14-day trial period to have a look around and work out if it is for you. If you cancel within those 14 days (by emailing us at [email protected]) you will get a full refund of your purchase